My therapist says ...

My therapist says I am sick
In the kindest, gentlest way I have heard it
Her words do not bite
They do not scratch
She says I am sick
And I am healed.

My therapist says she does not know
How I got like this
Says she can't determine
Which piece is pulling the strings
And which is just tied up in all of it.

My therapist says I am safe
And I want to scream
I want to scream because that safety
Is lovely
But does not follow me to the car.

My therapist says I am on the fast track
And widens her eyes when I tell her
I feel stagnant.
Maybe she does not know
I have been waiting for someone
To help me unpack this box of trauma
For decades
And it is heavy.

My therapist calls me my dear
Organically
And it sounds foreign to me
A pet name I have not earned
And I have it etched into my skin
So that one day it may be mine.

My therapist says to have patience
My therapist says to honor myself
My therapist says to focus, ground myself.

My therapist says I am sick.
And it is the kindest thing I have ever heard.

Hands

my hands were small then.

I miss them that way. 

Small, smooth, and clumsy

They did not know work

or keyboards

or steering wheels

had only held my mother's hand

as she stared straight ahead

half ready, half remiss
for the day when she didn't need me to hold on
could trust I wouldn't run off
or be carried away.

My hands were small then
and made worse the mess
as they tried to straighten and clean.
They had not yet mastered nimble
and were too soft
all putty and dough
to tie shoes
without getting caught in the laces.

My hands were small then.

I miss them. 

Searching

My life is a collection of old receipts
and black pens
that I can never find when I need them
they're somewhere
with my glasses
bought,
paid for,
missing.
Eye strain and stress
Too much caffeine and never enough sleep.
At least I keep receipts.

I Can't Help It

They’re moving my desk at work

The one in front

Perpendicular to a wall of windows-

To parallel

Directly across from the glass double door

My escape route

Along the side wall

Into the back room

The warehouse

Outside to the tree line

Behind the dumpster

Won’t be accessible

And I wonder what pictures

My wife will submit to the news station

Our wedding day

The first time I held Kendall

Two days old

Will I have finished graduate school by then?

Will my wife be murdered before I am?

On her way to work? Home?

On a bagel run?

Who will know what pictures to use for me then?
Will there be anyone left?

divets

My wife and I
have two cats
Callie, who eats herself sick
and Lucy, the runt of the litter Callie had
we assume.
Lucy came to us
barely a year old
small
but not feeble
black
with eyes that reveal
a soul that knows more than it lets on
a heart that has been broken
she understands
she has seen things
she won't tell us what they are
but she quickly grows tired
and skittish of the love and affection
we all know she so desperately wants.
Because she never grew to the size of a full cat
she can't groom herself properly
and she hates being brushed
so we have mastered
the art of holding her down with one hand
and cutting the sticky, thick mats of fur
behind her head
between her shoulder blades
while she screams
she dislikes being held in any way
she screams
as if we are trying to kill her
she doesn't seem to understand,
as we do
it's for her own good.

Six

rolling in the grass
the sun on my face
turning my skin a creamy
warm tan
years before it learned to burn
and my hair
brown all year in school
was a bright auburn in summer
the year my teeth were too big
for my mouth
so I grew it
and filled it with noise
the year I learned
volume can drown out fear
make no one see it
when they turn away from you
call you too excitable
too much
"enough already"

Six
when I fell in love with Gilbert Blythe
and was still afraid
of the Chariots of Fire theme song

Six

30 years ago
and another.

I didn't protect you.

I'm sorry.

things that Karen tells me

it is what it is
that's the god's honest truth
but it isn't unimportant
as that phrase
"it is what it is"
would lead you to believe
"Oh no, my dear. This was a big deal."
this is a big deal
that's what it is
and
like they say
it is what it is.

15

I remember you, Claudia.
Fifteen years after you gave me advice
I didn't understand.
And just as suddenly as you were gone
your words are clear
and they fit.
I remember.
How I wish I could tell you.